The result of this industry consolidating was obvious and disappointing. The lack of sensitivity and consideration demonstrated by all staff showed how impersonal these “corporate stores” have become.
The transactional tone of the whole experience was horrible. One staff member actually stood in front of a velvet rope strung across the door to the room where my father was laying. He prevented me from going in and having a private moment alone. His attitude in “enforcing the rope” came across as a stadium staff “lifer” preventing someone from going into an event without a ticket.
The work that had been done to prepare the body for display was another amateurish demonstration. It’s as if the person who did the work had never seen a picture or asked any information about what would have been normal for something as simple as how his hair would have normally been worn. The one good thing about doing such a horrible job was that I immediately stopped seeing the body as my fathers.
When our short ceremony was done – and before my family was even able to get 5 feet from the visitation room, the manager (I assume) stood in front of my grieving mother and had her address the collection of two additional dress shirts we had provided for the body preparation. Another horrible display of a lack of sympathy and their focus being more on the corporate checklist they run through.
There were other examples of these behaviors I could share. The result, my feelings are - if you hate your relative or want the whole experience to be run like an assembly line, then you’ll be fine. On the other hand, if you love the person who’s recently passed, or you’d prefer to deal with a staff that demonstrates at least a gleam of person care, I’d suggest you go anywhere else.